Resolve to Succeed in 2010!
It’s that time of year. Most of us made some pretty audacious resolutions for 2010. Now we’re looking back 6 days wondering why we thought we could walk on water. How many of you feel me?
I’m here to tell you it’s not your fault! You’ve been set up! Set up to fail. We’re told we are less than by our parents, pastors, teachers, heck – everyone! But they didn’t know any better either.
We’re measured at every twist and turn. It’s always about MORE! What we DIDN’T get done, rather than what we did! Our systems are all set up to show us how short we fell rather than how far we’ve come.
Making resolutions plays into the old psychology. You aren’t good enough the way you are, so you need to do or have more. And make it FAST!
Wanna try a new way? Let’s do it a little different this year. How would you like to learn how to set yourself up for success?!
There is a definite difference between making resolutions and setting goals.
Making a resolution feels like denial. You are giving something up… Cold turkey! You know… You’ll NEVER ________ (smoke, drink, have sex, eat chocolate) again! You’ve set yourself up to fail right away because that little kid inside of you says “Nu-uh! No way! Can’t MAKE me!”
Face it… If it was so easy, you’d probably have done it by now, right?
On the other hand, setting goals gives you time to get to your destination. You can even give yourself some space to fall down, if you need to.
But even with goal setting, you aren’t guaranteed success. It’s a process. And if you aren’t prepared, it won’t work either.
So what’s the magic formula? What’s missing?
You want it…
You said it…
You planned it…
Take measures to ensure your success by taking the following steps.
1) Know WHAT you want
If you don’t have a clear vision of where you want to go, chances are you’ll never make it anywhere. Just knowing what you don’t want isn’t enough.
To prove this theory for yourself, try walking into an airport and asking to buy a ticket to anyplace other than Hoboken, New Jersey. Where do you think the ticket agent will send you? Probably out the front door with security…
Do some soul searching on this one. Spend some time to pick one thing you CHOOSE to manifest and work with that for now. Start out small, just to prove it really works. Remember, we’re working to build a habit of success! Not to blast you for what you didn’t get done!
Also, Goals should be SMARTER – Specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time based, enthusiastic, and rewarding. If your goals are smarter, you’ll have a harder time figuring out if you’ve made it.
2) Know WHY you want it
Possibly worse than not knowing what you want is not knowing why you want it.
What purpose does the attainment of your goal mean for you? How will you be changed by it?
If the achievement of your goal doesn’t move you in a particular direction, you probably won’t be moved to achieve the goal. That’s why the Enthusiastic in SMARTER. You gotta like what you’re getting at the end of it.
3) Know HOW you can get it
Okay. Now this step is the scary one. This is the ACTION step. Don’t freak out.
It’s scary because most of us get so locked up in the how that we don’t take action. That seems silly to say since I said you need to know how you can get it. That just means that it’s time to make a move.
For now, just remember that the path you choose isn’t written in stone. Getting into ACTION is the most important thing.
If you don’t know HOW, try imagining yourself there at the goal. Then imagine back from there one milestone at a time to where you started from. Write these steps down and then do them one at a time.
OR, find a mentor, coach, or someone who has done what you intend to do. Make sure it’s someone who has successfully done it and not just a wanna-be. The world is filled with arm-chair quarterbacks. If you want the fast track, jump on someone else’s coattails.
One last thing… RELAX. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the most important part of life is not what you get but what you become as a result of the process. Disempowering goals deplete you of joy and energy. Strong, powerful goals not only motivate you to achieve them, but they also help you grow in the process.